It is often said that growth lies on the other side of our comfort zone. It seems like every success story speaks about the great change that came about once the decision was made to step outside of the familiar. Sometimes we choose to step out of our comfort zone and sometimes we are pushed out. The latter is how some parents feel upon recent news coverage.
To catch you up, over the past week, Presidential Candidate, Donald Trump has been under fire for comments he was recorded making some years back. In the recording, Trump describes sexually assaulting women in a tone that implies he sees nothing wrong with it. He alludes that he can do whatever he wants to a woman because of his celebrity status. The presidential candidate was recorded bragging about his attempt to coerce a married woman into having sex with him, kissing women without waiting for their consent, and grabbing them by their vaginas, again, without consent.
The reason some parents are wary of the news coverage is the awkward situation it creates at home when kids are exposed to such a topic. However, these sorts of situations provide the perfect opportunity for parents to step outside of your comfort zone and talk to your children about consent: how to ask for and give consent, and how to recognize when it is or is not being given.
It may be awkward for both parties to begin, but the more it is discussed the easier it will become to speak about comfortably. Whether or not consent is spoken about in the home, children will learn about it. However, it is up to parents to openly and regularly speak with their children to ensure they are getting the right information regarding consent. If the conversation begins when they are young, it can shape the way they go on to view sexuality.
The Ask. Listen. Respect video and the Teach Consent website are here to help. These resources were created by the Action Alliance to help parents start conversations with your children about consent. Check out the downloadable Parent Discussion Guide here.
Dominique is a Hotline Crisis Services Specialist at the Action Alliance as well as an Intern for the Real Story journalism internship. She graduated from Virginia Commonwealth University with a B.S. in Mass Communications and a B.A. in African American Studies. She is an aspiring filmmaker and loves to create as well as watch others’ creations on the big screen.
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